{The Nest Writes} Why I let my daughter watch the news

The world has been quite senseless lately and as an adult I have days where I really am struggling to understand the whys. Having said that, I still find myself aching to know what is happening around the world and who it is affecting.

I have heard that a lot of people are stopping their children from being exposed to the news. That people are blanket banning news from their homes and in particular the eyes and ears of their children.

I am the opposite, don’t get me wrong I don’t sit on the lounge with my six year old and make her watch the graphic London footage, but it is on in the background. Her father and I continue to have conversations about events like those that are shaping our world.

My daughter understands that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that you can’t live your life in fear. She recognises that there are extreme people who don’t represent all people and they choose to do nasty things.

Just last night I had a discussion with her about different faiths and how you can’t simply categorise all people into the same basket. The conversation started because she had heard the term “All Muslims are terrorists”.

We spoke about how the Islamic faith is actually one of the most peaceful religions in the world, but that some people choose to interpret it entirely differently. Much like how some people can choose to read the Catholic bible differently to most.

A six year old has blind faith and she doesn’t see a reason to discriminate or judge others and that is the exact reason why I think it is important for her to see what is happening in the world. I don’t want her to hear parts of news, jokes or judgments from small minded people and think that’s how we should all feel.

I have zero psychological qualifications and to be honest am probably breaking some cardinal rule that I am not aware of but if I engulf her with protection now and ban all news reporting and coverage then how does she build her own impression of the world? airport copy

There are some really horrible things that happen in the world but I can’t change those things. What I can do instead, is to start a conversation with her.

We heard on the news a few weeks ago about a baby that had been abandoned by his mother, so that started a brief conversation about mental health and depression and the importance of watching those around us for signs.

We saw another story about a 13 year old who had reportedly been approached on the way to school by a strange man. So this time we were able to discuss the importance of stranger danger and being aware of our surroundings.

On the news we saw Prince Harry and his involvement in the Invictus Games. So that started a conversation about wounded war veterans and the support they might need when they return home.

We watched an article about childhood obesity rising in Australia so we were able to discuss ‘sometimes foods’ and the importance of exercise.

My greatest fear is that if I protect her too strongly one day she will realise what a lie she has been told. I think it is really important not to raise a naïve little person who does not see the difference between good and evil, and as unfortunate as what it is, if she doesn’t also see bad she won’t be able to appreciate the endless good that also exists.

I want my children to ask questions, I need them to want to justify things that are completely unjustifiable. The reason for this is so they can understand just how unfair the world can be. I don’t want her to grow up believing that everything will go her way because sometimes life doesn’t discriminate the goodies from the baddies but regardless you still have to stay a goodie.

I truly believe that anything that starts a conversation is good, she needs to feel free to approach me about things she hears or how it affects the world around her. Turning off the news only shelters them for a little while and isn’t it better to let them learn coping skills instead?

I would love to hear your opinions, maybe I am completely off-field but in a world that is changing and evolving ever so quickly it’s nice to have an open discussion already on foot about all types of topics with the youngest minds around us.

 

{The Nest Cooks} 12 minute pantry mystery dinner

I hate those days when you have no idea what to cook for dinner and are left scouring the pantry for ingredients that kinda/maybe/probably go together.

Here is our latest creation:

12 minute pantry mystery dinner

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Things you will need:

  • Chicken (about 500 grams)
  • 1 Onion – finely chopped
  • 1 capsicum (red or green) sliced
  • 400g can chopped tomatoes
  • 2 tbs vegie stock paste (from Thermomix) – optional
  • Basil/Oregano/Parsley – doesn’t really matter just something to add some flavour!
  • Pasta of choice (we mixed spaghetti and fettuccine because we didn’t have enough of either one!)
  • Olive oil

METHOD:

  1. Cook the onion in a pan until it becomes translucent
  2. Add garlic and your cubed chicken and cook until golden
  3. Add capsicum and canned tomatoes and stock paste and simmer for about 10 minutes. Season with salt and pepper
  4. Meanwhile cook pasta according to packet instructions
  5. Serve pasta with chicken mix on top.

*You could add olives/sundried tomatoes/bacon or anything you have in the cupboard or fridge. This is essentially our ‘use the leftovers’ dish.

A bit plus of this dish is that the little birdies LOVE IT!

What’s your family’s go-to?

Enjoy!

{The Nest Writes} Why I no longer say “have a great day”

Why I no longer say have a great day.

A little while ago I said to my daughter as she clambered out of the car in front of her school “have a great day honey”, she said “I will, I always do”. When I picked her up that afternoon I said “Did you have a great day?”. “Yep” she said. Always wanting more information I pushed “So, what did you do?”. “Nothin’ mama”. “So did you learn anything”. “Nope”. “Who did you play with?”. “Don’t remember”.

I was deflated, she either didn’t have fun, she didn’t want to tell me or she simply could not be stuffed mustering the effort to involve me in her day.

So, my new plan was hatched.

The next morning we pulled into the illegal bus zone and as she collected her belonging I said “Honey, have a great adventure today”. She paused and inquisitively looked at me. “what did you say mama?”. I smiled at her and said, “Have a great adventure”. She giggled, kissed my cheek and her skinny, lanky little legs climbed over the front seat and out the door. a1

When I pulled up that afternoon, she came running to the car. She was almost breathless and said “mama, I had a great adventure, today I had a great adventure!!”. She then went onto to tell me the story of her adventure “Well, this morning I dropped all my library books but a girl I didn’t know from year 4 helped me pick them up. Then my teacher, you know ma, that lady that is like you but at school? Yeah her well, she sang a song about a goanna and made us pretend to be goannas. Do you know how hard it is to be a goanna mum?? Then at lunch we found a lizard in the back oval, but we didn’t touch it cause Finn said they can bite. Then I drew a picture of an owl, it was funny because I thought the blue crayon was actually purple! But it wasn’t HA! Then it was time to come home and you are here!, so a pretty interesting adventure today”.

I was shocked to see the same blonde haired babe who yesterday barely managed to mumble two words remembering in such detail what she had experienced that day. 

I realised she had done nothing new or vastly different from her normal days at school, but instead just paid more attention to the mundane everyday adventure of her life so she could tell me all about her ‘great adventure’. a2

So, I tried it the next day and the next.

Every single day it worked. She would collect into her little memory bank the list of stories to tell me about her great adventure each day. It was like the way she looked at her day had changed, she all of sudden paid a little more attention to each small adventure she experienced each day.

So in our family we no longer do “have a great day”, we are a family of “have a great adventure”.

Give it a try, you might be surprised.

 

{Little People Looks} Little Boohoo Bargains

There is exactly zero that I love more than good children’s clothing, you add to that great value and a stylish edge and I am weak at the knees. boohoo5

Recently I discovered that one of my favourite brands was expanding from just catering for the grownups into also offering little people looks.

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Boohoo Kids is fresh, modern and funky. It is essential shirts, quality jeans and wonderful dresses.

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It’s trendy floral, destination denim and pops of colour.

One of my faves is that they offer fantastic shoes that go the distance, my little lady has been knocking about in these Leopard Print Trainers and they still look brand new.

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If you want a cool new look for the little people then make sure you check out Boohoo Kids.

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I love that postage is not even a problem, to be honest I often receive packages from Boohoo quicker than I receive parcels bought in Australia, the team at Boohoo know the need for quick turn around on your latest looks. Plus, once you spend $40 postage is free!

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Boohoo Kids is cool, hip and urban and your little people will love the way the clothes make them feel.

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Happy shopping nesters

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*While this is a sponsored post made in collaboration with Boohoo.com all opinions stated are the writer’s own and a true reflection of her experience with the item* 

 

 

{Raising Little People} Parental Sleep Deprivation is where it’s at…

Parenting truly is wonderful and special and lovely. You are moulding the future generations, you are caring for those that are unable to exist without you. It truly is a privilege to shape the future.

Having said that, sometimes it’s shit.

Your tired and grumpy and cranky.

The fabulous team at The Motherish have put together a very accurate article about the various Stages of Parental Sleep Deprivationsleep

It is funny and honest.

Make sure you share it with the mamas and papas around you.

P.S Thanks to the wonderful Nester Simone for sharing this with us!

{The Nest Shops} Chi khi is your newest style stop

One of Australia’s most fantastic performers has changed direction and launched a brilliant, chic and funky children’s clothing line.

Natalie Bassingthwaighte, a mother to two gorgeous little birdies with sensitive skin says she always had trouble finding anything suitable for her little ones that wasn’t traditional or beige!

She says launching Chi Khi (pronounced Cheeky!) allowed her to offer cool, urban, unisex designs in a very popular monochrome palette combined with soft bamboo and cotton fabrics. She guarantees that everything is made to last, and as a mother of cyclones I appreciate those words!

Chi Khi offers clothing and accessories for little ones aged 0-4 years.

We are completely lusting after (READ: SOLID HINT to anyone considering buying me a baby present in the next few weeks!) this striking Messy Dot Blanket, talk about the bees knees and the ants pants! With generous sizing and created using beautiful products this blanket is destined to become a favourite!

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The Riley Quilted Sweat is a sure fire hit in this household. My toddler-bird loves nothing better than the warm embrace of a comfortable sweater and this ticks all the boxes! riley sweat

Any little guy in your life would be lucky to be seen wearing the Leo Marle Cardigan. Talk about a stylish addition to any wardrobe.  leo cardigan

Thanks Ms Bass for bringing some sense and style to our little birds’ wardrobes.

You can shop here -> Chi Khi

{Life Hack Friday} This Iphone feature is what dreams are made of!

I used to be part of the IPHONE squad but now I have stepped to the dark side and sing the praises of Samsung.

If you are still team Iphone, then this my friend is for you!

Basically the very clever team at Pretty Providence have discovered that the Iphone has a setting that allows you to ‘lock’ your little birdy on a screen so they can’t hit the home button to get out of it! Yep. Life has just given you lemonade people. iphone-parent-mode

Head over hear and check it out -> ‘Iphone Parent Mode I love You’

You. Are. Welcome.