{The Legal Nest} What am I worth?

Today our Legal advice contributor James Horsburgh, Solicitor and Director from McIntosh McPhillamy & Co in Bathurst talks all things Family Law Property Settlement.

James has over 10 years experience and practices primarily in the areas of Family law, Criminal law and litigation. He is a Law Society Accredited Specialist in Family Law, essentially making him an expert in that field.

James is married and has two children. He is extensively involved in the local community and loves fighting the good fight.
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PROPERTY SETTLEMENT – WHAT IS A CONTRIBUTION?

Have you ever wondered how the Courts determine what your contributions are worth when deciding on a property settlement? Well, the Courts take many things into consideration. money tree

Contributions are assessed during three (3) stages of the relationship, these are:

  1. Contributions prior to the commencement of the relationship.
  2. Contributions made during the relationship.
  3. Contributions made after separation.

A question I am often asked is, does the court just look at financial contributions? The answer is no. Ultimately the court looks at three (3) types of contributions, these are:

  1. Financial Contributions
    • E.g a party’s earnings, or money or other assets brought into the relationship.
  2. Non-financial contributions
    • Contributions made directly or indirectly, by or on behalf of a party, to the acquisition, conservation or improvement of any of the property that the parties have.
  3. Contributions to the welfare of the family
    • Contributions made by either party in their capacity as homemaker or parent.

The significance or the weight which is afforded to any particular contribution is a matter for the court. However, in reaching an outcome which is fair and reasonable, it is not sufficient to say that “I have paid for everything, he/she should get nothing!”.

If you want more information about the contributions that you have made to your relationship, please do not hesitate to contact James at McIntosh McPhillamy & Co on 6331 1533 or email him directly at jhorsburgh@mcmc.com.au

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{The Embrace Screening} Kellie’s reflection

Recently The Central Nest and Kellie Gibson arranged a screening of the highly informative film ‘Embrace’ in Bathurst. It was an event that was filled with inspiration, motivation and the joy of spending the night with 150 of our closest friends.

Kellie has prepared a reflection of the event and wanted to share it with you. watercolour

After spending a wonderful evening at the Bathurst Embrace screening last week with 150 other local women and “one token dude” I left feeling really empowered and loved the amazing message that the film sent. You know it’s a powerful and hardhitting message when you are left thinking about it for days afterwards, there were so many parts that really stuck with me.

But… I am going to be completely honest here.

When Wednesday rolled around and the cover for Bathurst City Life was released, I took one look at the cover shot, which was a photo of myself and the other ladies who contributed to the event and my initial thoughts were “what a terrible photo of me… I look horrible”, “I didn’t realise I was that big” “look at the bags under my eyes” “how embarrassing” “everyone else looks great but I look terrible”.

Then a massive part of me felt guilty that I was left feeling like that particularly when the event was all about embracing who we are and how we look and promoting positive body image for all. I felt like a fraud that I had been so passionate about this issue that I had brought the Embrace screening to Bathurst and now I was body shaming myself!

I caught up for a cuppa this morning with a friend who was also on the cover and she told me her thoughts upon seeing it and I was shocked to hear that her reaction was pretty much the same, she was so critical of how she looked but thought that the rest of us all looked gorgeous! After a good laugh it led to a chat about why we are so hard on ourselves, how can we be exposed to such a positive message which makes us walk away feeling so great and then have such a negative reaction to the first photo we see of ourselves? How can we change these powerful thoughts and feelings that have been wired into us for so many years? How can we change the culture?

Upon chatting further I told my friend that I can personally remember being told so often in the past that I was pretty or that I was beautiful, that I had a great body, that I looked really fit etc. Looking back, I honestly feel that being told these things so often has devalued in my own mind other important qualities and attributes that I have to offer as a person and when through my own perception (no one else’s) I feel like I don’t have those things then I feel like I am not enough. Don’t get me wrong, who doesn’t love a compliment? We all do! A genuine compliment can really brighten our day. The issue is that all too often compliments are based on aesthetics as opposed to a variety of beautiful qualities that make us truly unique as individuals, all of those things that our family and friends truly love about us! It can be so hard when what is portrayed as normal in magazines and other media is worlds apart from reality.

At the end of our cuppa we decided that the only way we can change this culture and way of thinking is to have more conversations about it! We need to talk about it as a way to constantly remind ourselves that we are so much more than how we look and that our qualities extend far greater than what meets the eye.

As women we need to work towards building ourselves and each other up and getting to know those qualities that make each of us so unique and so special, each and every one of us has so much to offer! It’s going to be a work in progress to change these thought patterns we have developed over time… but collectively lets all continue to try!

On that note I would like to share one particular quote from the film that I absolutely loved and will always remember “It’s a waste of energy that people spend all of that time worrying about how they look as opposed to what they can contribute” – Turia Pitt. Well said Turia, well said!

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{Locally Found} Win the mother of all prizes from Mayfield Garden

So, last week we ran a pretty rad prize giving away a couple of tickets to the AutumnFest at Mayfield Garden and the generous team at Mayfield decided to keep the giveaway spirit going and is offering the mother of all prizes. Mayfield Garden White Party-45

Mayfield Garden is unlike anything else in our area, it offers sprawling grass areas, paths that lead into lushness greenery and flowers that would give Flemington a run for it’s money on raceday. 

It is an idealic space of reflection, of celebration and of nature’s true beauty. MayfieldGarden_Main1

Mayfield employs more than 60 locals that ensure the garden is always peaking and blooming. Over the years the gardens have grown exponentially and now they offer a Nursery for all your cool climate plant needs and a Cafe and Produce Store that serves the MOST delightful seasonal and freshly prepared food directly from the garden and as well as other local suppliers.  

If you want more information head over the Mayfield Garden facebook page or give Meg a call on 6336 3131.

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The gorgeous team at Mayfield Garden are eager to make your mother’s day just that little bit special and are giving away TWO ANNUAL PASSES to the gardens! Oh my!

To be in the running you have to head over to our facebook page here -> The Central Nest as well as like the Mayfield Garden facebook page and let us know “why your mum is the best”!

Our two lucky winners will be drawn on 14 April 2017.

Good luck beautiful people!

 

{Locally Found} Mayfield’s AutumnFest

As you all are no doubt aware, I love exploring what we are lucky enough to have on offer in our local area and one of my favourite areas is bringing some tunes to us in the best kind of way.

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On 30 April 2017 Mayfield Gardens will be hosting AutumnFest and it is going to be the perfect way to spend time with your family while listening to some of the best that Australian music has to offer. On stage will be legendary Aussie rocker James Reyne, as well as performances by Boom Crash Opera, Matt Boylan-Smith and dynamic duo, Smith & Jones.

AutumnFest kicks off at 12pm and not only will you and your family be exposed to some beautiful tunes from some brilliant artists but you can select from some sensational local eateries during the afternoon. Mayfield Gardens are thrilled to be offering treats for your tastebuds from Smoking BrothersAl Dente, Moubar Vintage, Tommys and Two Heads Brewery.

In case you don’t want to drive, there will be transfers from Oberon, Bathurst, Orange, Lithgow and Katoomba.

If you want more information head over the Mayfield Garden facebook page or give Meg a call on 6336 3131.

Can’t wait to see you there!

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The rockin’ team at Mayfield Garden have given us some tickets to give away! To be in the running you have to head over to The Central Nest Facebook Page and comment on the original win post! We are giving away a double pass!

Winner will be drawn on Friday 21 April 2017

Good luck!

 

 

{The Nest Resolutions} The things that make me better

Having three little people under  7 and another on the way means life can be super busy for me and easily becomes overwhelming. So, in an effort to stay on pointe this year I have made several resolutions that I refuse to break.book

LIST LIFE

I make lists. Like loads and loads of lists.

Lists on jobs to do around the house. Lists of items to write about on the blog for you lovely people. Lists reminding me when the girls have swimming lessons and doctor’s appointments, school events and sports day at school. Lists to remind me about all the little things that it takes to keep our little nest turning over day after day.

I write lists not only to remember to do things but to feel good when I tick off the box next to it acknowledging that’s another job done. I find it really helps when I am feeling overwhelmed or like even though I am doing a bazillion things nothing is really getting done.

MEAL PLANNING

I cannot even tell you how much difference this will make to your life if you haven’t already tried this. Not only is that horrid decision of what to eat today already made for you, it means you save a whole tonne of casholi as well. No longer do you walk around aimlessly at the supermarket buying bits and pieces of meals to realise when you get home you have missed a crucial ingredient.

I write mine up on the menu board (from KMART)  on the pantry each week so everyone in the house knows what we are having that day.

You will also notice a massive reduction in wastage (especially fruit and veg)

MAKE THE BED

This is an easy one. I make my bed every morning so that each time I enter my room throughout that day it feels clean and organised. A messy space leads to a messy mind. I dare you try it for one week and see if your mood improves.

DON’T SWEAT IT

I resolve to not sweat all this little stuff. I have always been quite organised and strive for near perfection in everything I do, but following the birth of my third child, Coco I was diagnosed with post-natal depression and the world around me collapsed. I was so focused on making sure everything was perfect that I ended up doing 100 jobs but none of them well. As much as it is hard to remind myself some days, not everything can be perfect all of the time.  When I am feeling overwhelmed I take a step back and pick out what really matters.

DISH LIFE

I clean the dinner dishes EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. If you wake up to a clean kitchen to make a pot of coffee in the morning it makes everything smoother. This really makes a crucial difference to me but it took a long time to get in the habit of not just sitting on the lounge absorbed into primetime television after dinner. If you form the habit then you reap the rewards. Trust me!

So nesters, what makes your days easily?

{Locally Found} White Night was just Right

I was lucky enough to attend the inaugural White Night Party at  Mayfield Garden recently and I had an absolute blast!

Upon arrival we were met by the gorgeous and eternally friendly Meg who welcomed us with a big smile and a glass of delicious punch (that girl knows how to make friends!)mayfield2

I have to admit I have never been to the gardens before but once I followed the winding path I was amazed to see just how beautiful the place is! The party was centred under a generous white tent surrounded by rolling grass hills and a magnificent water feature.

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We found our seats on the shared tables and quickly made friends with the people beside us. I love the idea of communal tables, I think it is so easy to go places with your friends and only stay in your group but shared tables encourage you to meet those around you. We were lucky enough to sit with a couple of very friendly ladies from Raine and Horne Real Estate in Bathurst.

The tables were generously adorned with flowers and fernery as well as bottles of red and white wine. It was certainly clear from the outset that no one was going to be short of a drink all night!

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The whole place felt like we had stepped into an exclusive Hampton’s party, the floral decorations from Ivory Rose Botanicals were sublime, generous and really were the icing on the cake.

The night’s entertainment was a brilliant band The Orient Royal Mail Band who played well into the night and Mayfield Garden even ran a surprise fake wedding to showcase how brilliant a wedding could be at the grounds. I tell you what, if I was planning a wedding the Gardens would certainly be one of the frontrunners for me!

The food was delicious and generous and in particular if I could get my little mitts on an endless supply of the olive bread I would be eternally happy. I am obsessed with it, it was without a doubt the yummiest bread I have EVER eaten. *recipe please!*

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Image: Henry Paul Photography

The food was scrumptious and I am a strong believer in the food mentality on offer from Heath Smith and Head Chef Dan Child who offer paddock to plate wherever possible. Mayfield Garden are really ahead of the game when it comes to sustainable local produce being used effectively and absolutely deliciously.

All in all I look forward to going back next year to Mayfield Garden‘s White Night and celebrate a night filled with laughter, friendship and good food with my pals.

I can’t wait until the next chance I get to head out to Mayfield Garden. I hear there’s a cafe – oohhh I wonder if they have the olive bread!?!?

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Image: Henry Paul Photography

 

 

{Girl Crush Tuesday} Singing superstar Lauren Plenderleith

We have some pretty hard girl crushes. These are the types of ladies that stamp their style on the world. They are the type of people that will always be remembered and little girls grow up wanting to be. They are women of substance. Women that make the world a better place. Happy Girl Crush Tuesday everybody.line4Today we salute local performer extraordinaire Lauren Plenderleith.

Lauren is a local girl who I have had the privilege of knowing for an extraordinarily long time, she is super involved in the community and has a heart of gold.

Lauren is a singer extraordinaire and I guarantee that you would have seen her gracing stages at many functions you have attended in our local area over the years.

She has been a band member of Nuthin’ 2 Serious for over 13 years and as if that’s not enough she is also a founding member of of Momentum, a new musical group that are rockin’ out sounds everywhere. In fact, Momentum are opening for and supporting Diesel later this year! What a great achievement.

Lauren is such a superstar that she was given the well deserved honour of being MC for the Bathurst Carols by Candlelight last Christmas and to say she smashed it is a massive understatement! She also performed at Rock of Ages.

On top of all this Lauren is a mother and a wife who has a day job as well!

There is absolutely nothing better than seeing a local girl done good.

Here’s to you Lauren, we can’t wait to see you rock the stage for years to come. Thanks for showing our little girls that confidence and hardwork pays off.

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