{The Nest Writes} Why I let my daughter watch the news

The world has been quite senseless lately and as an adult I have days where I really am struggling to understand the whys. Having said that, I still find myself aching to know what is happening around the world and who it is affecting.

I have heard that a lot of people are stopping their children from being exposed to the news. That people are blanket banning news from their homes and in particular the eyes and ears of their children.

I am the opposite, don’t get me wrong I don’t sit on the lounge with my six year old and make her watch the graphic London footage, but it is on in the background. Her father and I continue to have conversations about events like those that are shaping our world.

My daughter understands that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that you can’t live your life in fear. She recognises that there are extreme people who don’t represent all people and they choose to do nasty things.

Just last night I had a discussion with her about different faiths and how you can’t simply categorise all people into the same basket. The conversation started because she had heard the term “All Muslims are terrorists”.

We spoke about how the Islamic faith is actually one of the most peaceful religions in the world, but that some people choose to interpret it entirely differently. Much like how some people can choose to read the Catholic bible differently to most.

A six year old has blind faith and she doesn’t see a reason to discriminate or judge others and that is the exact reason why I think it is important for her to see what is happening in the world. I don’t want her to hear parts of news, jokes or judgments from small minded people and think that’s how we should all feel.

I have zero psychological qualifications and to be honest am probably breaking some cardinal rule that I am not aware of but if I engulf her with protection now and ban all news reporting and coverage then how does she build her own impression of the world? airport copy

There are some really horrible things that happen in the world but I can’t change those things. What I can do instead, is to start a conversation with her.

We heard on the news a few weeks ago about a baby that had been abandoned by his mother, so that started a brief conversation about mental health and depression and the importance of watching those around us for signs.

We saw another story about a 13 year old who had reportedly been approached on the way to school by a strange man. So this time we were able to discuss the importance of stranger danger and being aware of our surroundings.

On the news we saw Prince Harry and his involvement in the Invictus Games. So that started a conversation about wounded war veterans and the support they might need when they return home.

We watched an article about childhood obesity rising in Australia so we were able to discuss ‘sometimes foods’ and the importance of exercise.

My greatest fear is that if I protect her too strongly one day she will realise what a lie she has been told. I think it is really important not to raise a naïve little person who does not see the difference between good and evil, and as unfortunate as what it is, if she doesn’t also see bad she won’t be able to appreciate the endless good that also exists.

I want my children to ask questions, I need them to want to justify things that are completely unjustifiable. The reason for this is so they can understand just how unfair the world can be. I don’t want her to grow up believing that everything will go her way because sometimes life doesn’t discriminate the goodies from the baddies but regardless you still have to stay a goodie.

I truly believe that anything that starts a conversation is good, she needs to feel free to approach me about things she hears or how it affects the world around her. Turning off the news only shelters them for a little while and isn’t it better to let them learn coping skills instead?

I would love to hear your opinions, maybe I am completely off-field but in a world that is changing and evolving ever so quickly it’s nice to have an open discussion already on foot about all types of topics with the youngest minds around us.

 

{The Nest Writes} Why I no longer say “have a great day”

Why I no longer say have a great day.

A little while ago I said to my daughter as she clambered out of the car in front of her school “have a great day honey”, she said “I will, I always do”. When I picked her up that afternoon I said “Did you have a great day?”. “Yep” she said. Always wanting more information I pushed “So, what did you do?”. “Nothin’ mama”. “So did you learn anything”. “Nope”. “Who did you play with?”. “Don’t remember”.

I was deflated, she either didn’t have fun, she didn’t want to tell me or she simply could not be stuffed mustering the effort to involve me in her day.

So, my new plan was hatched.

The next morning we pulled into the illegal bus zone and as she collected her belonging I said “Honey, have a great adventure today”. She paused and inquisitively looked at me. “what did you say mama?”. I smiled at her and said, “Have a great adventure”. She giggled, kissed my cheek and her skinny, lanky little legs climbed over the front seat and out the door. a1

When I pulled up that afternoon, she came running to the car. She was almost breathless and said “mama, I had a great adventure, today I had a great adventure!!”. She then went onto to tell me the story of her adventure “Well, this morning I dropped all my library books but a girl I didn’t know from year 4 helped me pick them up. Then my teacher, you know ma, that lady that is like you but at school? Yeah her well, she sang a song about a goanna and made us pretend to be goannas. Do you know how hard it is to be a goanna mum?? Then at lunch we found a lizard in the back oval, but we didn’t touch it cause Finn said they can bite. Then I drew a picture of an owl, it was funny because I thought the blue crayon was actually purple! But it wasn’t HA! Then it was time to come home and you are here!, so a pretty interesting adventure today”.

I was shocked to see the same blonde haired babe who yesterday barely managed to mumble two words remembering in such detail what she had experienced that day. 

I realised she had done nothing new or vastly different from her normal days at school, but instead just paid more attention to the mundane everyday adventure of her life so she could tell me all about her ‘great adventure’. a2

So, I tried it the next day and the next.

Every single day it worked. She would collect into her little memory bank the list of stories to tell me about her great adventure each day. It was like the way she looked at her day had changed, she all of sudden paid a little more attention to each small adventure she experienced each day.

So in our family we no longer do “have a great day”, we are a family of “have a great adventure”.

Give it a try, you might be surprised.

 

{Christmas Prizeapolooza 2016} There’s two Grey Elephants in my heart

I love good quality, one of a kind baby stores that offer not only fabulous items but more importantly brilliant customer service. That is exactly what you get with Two Grey Elephants.

Run by fabulous sister duo Alison Davis and Mel Watson they are your one stop Children’s store. I love that sometimes you will even find their mum Jeanette helping out as well!

You can find Two Grey Elephants in beautiful Millthorpe, and trust me when I say it worth the drive just to visit Ali and Mel! tge_product_01_lr

Two Grey Elephants is all about beautiful things for the beautiful little people in your life. They specialise in ethically manufactured and handmade items as well as locally sourced pieces.

They have an extensive selection of ride-on toys, traditional rocking horses and wooden toys. They have modern and funky teepees and wall prints blended effortlessly with classic collector decor.

My favourite part about Two Grey Elephants is that you can pop in and see them and they can put together a hamper for the special new little addition in your family and you look like a superstar with very little effort!  tge_product_14_lr

Two Grey Elephants is in touch with the community and for a gold coin donation they offer weekly kids activities each Friday morning at 11am! Plus on Sundays they have a free kids story time!

Two Grey Elephants is a family run business that seek quality in all their goods. They like to support ethically sourced goods both locally as well as from around the world. Ali is a qualified early childhood teacher and is always on the look out for products that have significant developmental value (and being pretty doesn’t hurt either!) tge_product_33_lr

When you buy from Two Grey Elephants you are buying a product that has been hand picked and is destined to become a childhood favourite that is cherished forever.

You should pop out and say hi to Mel and Ali today:

| Address: 9b Pym Street Millthorpe 2795 (across from the Old Mill) |

| Phone: 02 9188 1559 |

| Email: hello@twogreyelephants |

| Website: http://www.twogreyelephants.com.au |

| Facebook: @twogreyelephants |

| Instagram: @twogreyelephants |

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line4The fantastic girls at Two Grey Elephants are offering a beautiful gift to one very lucky nester a $50 voucher* or a baby hamper (the choice is up to the winner!) How wonderful!

To be in the running all you to do is be a ‘liker’ of Two Grey Elephantson facebook as well as The Central Nest’s facebook page and like the ORIGINAL competition post on our facebook page.

Remember to ‘tag’ a friend and ‘share’ the post for an additional entry.

Winner will be drawn 5pm (AEST) Thursday 22 December 2016.

To see the full terms and conditions go here -> Christmas Prizeapolooza 2016 Rules

 

*excludes consignment items*

 

 

{My Story} The crippling effect of post-natal anxiety

Today is World Mental Health Day and talking about my experience with post-natal depression and anxiety is difficult but if I don’t and someone else is feeling this way and thinks it is normal that is not okay. After my third daughter was born I lost myself for a while and it was genuinely the most scary time of my life.   group

The alarm sounds and I wake from a broken sleep. I don’t even know what time I eventually got to sleep, plus the baby woke four times.

An ache controls my entire body. Continue reading

{The Nest Loves} Swing with Vines of the Wild

My latest love is  Vines of the Wild, an innovate and quality driven producer of eclectic and whimsical products for the little humans in your life.

Vines of the Wild source products from local artists from across the country, the soul purpose of their products is to enliven the gift of nature and awaken your bohemian soul.

They are constantly aware of the environment and so utilise mediums such as wood, non-toxic paint and natural fabrics and recycled materials to minimise their ecological footprint.

I love that Vines of the Wild is not only a source of mindful products but also will cloak our little adventurers in style.

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We love:

| Knit Overalls $85 | Knit Faux Fur Bonnett $69 | Heirloom Wings $159 | Australian Map Print $79 |

Find Vines of the Wild on Instagram @vinesofthewild

Happy shopping Nesters x

 

{Raising Little People} How to Raise a Well Rounded Boy

Being a parent is without a doubt the most important job you will ever have, you are responsible for raising strong, respectful, independent little humans who will make the world a better place.

Here are some great tips from the team at BabyCenter on How To Raise A Well Rounded Boyboy

I particularly love the idea of encouraging his interests, even if they aren’t traditional ‘boy’ interests.

Happy reading Nesters x

{Raising Little People} To the Thirtysomething Mums

I love mamas that speak the truth, they say what I am thinking but sometimes can’t quite find the words for. This article by Littles Love and Sunshine articulates perfectly the moment I am in.

This article is wonderfully accurate. thirtysomething

To the Thirtysomething Mums

Happy reading nesters x