{The Nest Writes} Enough is Enough. When can we stop living in fear?

To say that this is out of hand is a completely ridiculous understatement.

We need to band together and say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. violence

This week a local woman said goodbye to her work mates, collected her handbag and walked to her car. Surely a process she had done many times before.

Except this time was different. Today would change her life forever. She was beaten without mercy by her former partner. He abused her and left to die alone in her car.

He decided it was his right to abuse her.

I don’t know their personal circumstance, nor do I need to.

I do know that no woman deserves to be treated so appallingly by another human being.

What is absolutely devastating is that this is not an isolated incident.

Earlier this year in Bathurst, a man shot dead his former partner. He killed her with a shotgun and then turned the gun on himself. He did not face punishment. He was not able to be held accountable for his actions. He took her from her family and then took the cowards way out. Her family will live on without her, and that is completely unfair. She didn’t choose to die, he made that decision for her.

So, my question to you is, where is the outrage?

If a woman was killed on our streets by a stranger there would be fits of anger.

If she were killed by a Muslim extremist there would be protests, red alerts and media coverage for weeks.

Where exactly is the line drawn? So is it okay to beat your wife because you know her? Because you own her?

Of course it isn’t.  

These women are not even safe in their own homes. Something needs to be done. We need to make a stand and say that this is not okay.

Every single week in Australia one woman is killed by a current or former partner. On top of that it is reported that 1 in 3 women experience some degree of violence.

1 in 3.

Just let that sink in.

Why are we not taking this seriously? What will become of us?

Do you want a world where our daughters are unsafe, even in their own homes?

No of course not.

So what can you do?

You need to take a stand and reject the sexist attitudes and behaviour that creates a culture whereby violence against women is tolerated.

You need to treat all women as equals.

You need to speak up if you believe violence against women is occurring.

You need to make a world where little girls are protected. Young women are respected and females are not victimized.

If you know something is happening and you do nothing then you are also to blame.

Living in fear is not an option. Change must happen.

I stand for change.stand up

HELP IS AVAILABLE: 

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, you can ring the Domestic Violence Line for help on 1800 656 463

The Domestic Violence Line is a statewide free-call number and is available 24 hours, seven days a week.

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EDITORS NOTE:

We send our thoughts, prayers and best wishes to those involved in the circumstances above.

I thank everyone for the comments and messages, I just want to take this opportunity to reiterate that violence against anyone is horrendous. To men. To women. To children. Every single person deserves to be safe and protected against violence. Men do. Women do. Children do. It was definitely not my intention to belittle or diminish the impact of violence against all other members of society.

{The Weekly Nest} This week bought a new baby, some massive controversy, uncontrollable public sobbing and some crabby apples…

First up, soz team for not posting ‘The Weekly Nest’ last week, I was WAY distracted because my little baby sister was busy being awesome and bringing my new little nephew into the big wide world. She was an absolute superstar and he is perfection in a cute little bundle.

This is Arthur Andrew and he is bees knees, the ants pants, the cat’s meow…

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If you find yourself in a similar situation, welcoming a new little bambino then we found the best way to buy baby presents! All Wrapped Up is this fantastic business that does all the bloody hard work for you! You should definitely head over and take the stress out of your next present buying expedition!

One of the biggest articles we have ever put on the blog was Another Girl is Dead and a Man is Responsible it was reached by over 20,000 of you within two days, it was shared and commented on by many of you. I knew this article would strike a chord, but did not realise exactly how large the reaction would be. I received quite a few messages from people concerned that the article focused too strongly on violence against women and that I did not consider the violence that occurs against men and children.

I have to say that the idea behind the article was simply to bring awareness of just how prevalent the surge in violence against women has become, especially this year. Of course every single person deserves to be safe and protected against violence, men do, children do, women do. I appreciate everyone’s opinions and this was simply mine. stand

I would love to send individual thanks to every single one of you that shared, commented and liked the post. Without your support this article wouldn’t have reached so many people. I sincerely thank you from the bottom of my heart.

The Central Nest sends our greatest thoughts, prayers and hopes to the families affected by this devastating situation.

Another popular article over the last week was an article about Speech and Development Warning Signs in little people. You should check it out, it is always better to be aware of any potential problems that may arise.

20 Secrets of Couples Who Stay Together Forever resonated with a lot of our Nesters! What would you add?couple

I went and watched the Fast and Furious 7 at the cinema this weekend with the hubby-bird and absolutely LOVED it. The hubs had a grin the size of China splashed across his face from about 12 seconds in. It is the perfect date night movie. A good perve for da ladies and the boys die for the fast cars, big machines and testosterone overkill.

Having said that, it was probs not a super intelligent idea to take a hormonal preggo lady to see the fast and the furious 7 when they have such a emotional tribute to Paul Walker at the end, Ermagawd… #‎LookAtThatWeirdoInTheCornerSobbing  ‪#‎AhShitThatsMe‬.. food2

On a different note, if you are looking for creative ways to keep the little birds fed, then you should see our article on  Crabby Apples and Pouting Worms. If you use a little bit of imagination then you can get really creative with healthy eating!

That’s about it beautiful Nesters. As I have already said, I sincerely appreciate your support this week and look forward to sharing more ideas, stories and opinions with you in the future!

have a great week

 

 

{The Nest Writes} Today another girl is dead and a man is responsible

I am livid. Inexplicitly pissed off. Heartbroken.

I am struggling not to lose faith, having trouble accepting that this is what our country has become.

Today, a man was charged with murder. He stole the future from a 26 year old woman who was to be married this weekend. Her name was Stephanie and she was a teacher, a soon-to-be wife, a daughter, a friend.

She is the girl next to you at the café. She is the lady in line for groceries. She is your child’s teacher.

Stephanie didn’t deserve to be treated in such a horrendous way. Her life was taken by a man. He made a decision without regard to her own wishes. A choice to singlehandedly ruin a family and to break the heart of a finance who this weekend will be crying tears of pain and sorrow, rather than celebrating in the loving embrace of his new wife.

This murderous man worked with Stephanie. They were colleagues. They probably brushed past each other in the corridor, maybe even made small-chat. He knew her. She knew him.

Stephanie and her mother, and partner

Stephanie and her mother, and partner

This weekend, a country town in New South Wales will be mourning a daughter. Someone will have to fold away her wedding dress. To cancel the florist. To file away her wedding vows. Instead of joining two families in love, a man has catapulted two families into grief.

On 17 March another woman’s life was stolen. 17 year old high school student Masa Vukotic, was violently attacked and stabbed to death while going for a run. This is not acceptable. This girl was simply existing in the world, living her OWN life and a man decided he had the power to end her existence in the most horrific of ways. It was unexpected. Unnecessary. Unfounded. A pure unadulterated abuse of power.

Men in Australia are taking the lives of women around them and something needs to be done. We need to make a stand and say that this is not okay.

This cycle of men killing women has to end. Every single week one Australian woman is killed by a current or former partner and one in three women have experienced some degree of violence.

1 in 3.

Just let that sink in.

You, and your two best friends are having coffee, statistically one of you has or will experience violence. In New South Wales alone in 2014 there were more than 27,000 domestic violence assaults reported to police (and that’s just the women who were brave enough, or injured enough to report it. Think about how many must go unreported).

Why is Australia not taking this seriously? What will become of us. My daughters are likely to grow up in a world where they are no longer safe to go for a run, walk home or tragically as with Stephanie, they aren’t even safe in their own workplace. They won’t be able to have the escape of their own home, because you know, one in three women experience violence in the home as well.

One of Australia’s largest newspapers, the Courier Mail showed utter disrespect when reporting Stephanie’s story today. Their front page ran the header ‘Bride and Seek’. This sort of media coverage does nothing but diminish the feelings of a family, the actions of a man and the last moments of a daughter. A front cover header of a national newspaper like this does not show how serious Australians need to be in stopping this ongoing epidemic of violence against women.

Media reporting like this cannot be tolerated

Media reporting like this cannot be tolerated

Men are not the rulers of women. We no longer live in a patriarchal society whereby women must obey men. We are equals. Women should be safe. Men should not be allowed to steal the futures from our nation’s girls.

In 2012 Thomas Kelly was fatally king-hit at Kings Cross in Sydney. The country was outraged. A young man was dead as a result of being punched. His brave family launched a campaign pushing for accountability and tougher sentencing. In 2013 another young man, Daniel Christie was killed again by a punch. Australia reacted. Within weeks new legislation was passed and “A Coward’s Punch Can Kill” campaign launched. Changes were made.

An issue was addressed. This kind of violence would no longer be tolerated. Seven men had been killed since 2000 and this was the reaction. Seven women had been killed by their partners in the first five weeks of 2015 alone.

Where the hell is the outrage on those statistics?

So what can you do?

You need to take a stand and reject the sexist attitudes and behaviour that creates a culture whereby violence against women is tolerated. You need to not support media reporting like the Courier mail’s front page today.

You need to treat all women as equals.

You need to speak up if you believe violence against women is occurring.

You need to not allow our media and policy makers to sweep yet another incident of violence against women under the carpet.

You need to make a world where little girls are protected. Young women are respected and females are not victimized.

Living in fear is not an option. Change must happen.

I stand for change. We need to protect Australia’s girls now.stand

#ProtectAustraliasGirlsNow

EDITORS NOTE: Thanks to everyone for the comments and messages, I just want to take this opportunity to reiterate that violence against anyone is horrendous. To men. To women. To children. The idea behind this article was simply to bring awareness of just how prevalent this surge in violence against women has become especially in the first few months in 2015. Every single person deserves to be safe and protected against violence. Men do. Women do. Children do. It was definitely not my intention to belittle or diminish the impact of violence against all other members of society.