{The Nest Writes} To my darling Kindergartener

To my darling little kindergartener,

I swear it was only yesterday that you came into my life, you were so little and fragile. What an extraordinary little person you have become. You are a fiercely independent little girl and words will never explain how incredibly honoured I am to have you in my life.

In a few short days you will brush your golden hair, tie your shoes, put on your uniform and start kindergarten. Very soon the little world that you and I have created will forever change. This is a new chapter in your life and while I know you are ready to fly out from our little nest there are a few things I would like you to know.

I want so much for you, there are the obvious things, like an education, I know it can be boring but it truly opens up a new world for you. Read. Write. Explore. A whole new world is available to you in the words of books, the colours of art and the sounds of music.

Set goals and don’t limit yourself baby, there is nothing you can’t do and no career that you can’t have. Honey, there are no confines for your imagination. Remember to work hard. Be determined and strive passionately towards what you want.  

 Be brave little one. Change is scary, but also needed. Even if I could keep you under my wing for always, I know I need to step back, let go and let the world see you.

All I ask is that you be brave, that you learn with enthusiasm and try to make good friends. I ask that you be kind and trustworthy, be the type of friend that treats people right. Remember though, not everyone will be nice. Some people are negative, but my darling, this is not a reflection of you, this instead demonstrates their own insecurities. Stand on your own two feet and know who you are and under no circumstances drop to their level.

I want you to stay independent, be courageous and have conviction in your own decisions. No one else in the entire world is the same as you, and although that’s scary it is truly a wonderful thing.Andy_Charlotte_185

Stay funny, life is not that serious, you only get one chance at it so you might as well smile along the way.

Pay attention and stay focused, but sweetheart, also remember to laugh and enjoy this experience.

Remember you don’t need to be the best at everything, but please baby girl, give everything your best go. 

You are divine darling and I am equally torn between the pride of the incredibly beautiful little lady you are becoming and desperately reminiscing about my little baby. I see though, that the world is a much better place with you growing in it.

So, if you see mama wipe a tear on your first day, I promise you that this is only because of the overwhelming pride I feel towards you and how much I realise I am letting you go for all the world to see.

Stay you honey, stay fearless, stay independent. Stay loyal.

Just know sweetheart, your daddy and I are here for you always. You might be heading out into the world, but to us, you really are our world.

So darling, I dare you to be yourself. Go little girl and discover your very own place in the world.

I love you for always.

Mummy.

 

 

 

{School Days} How to settle in, make nice and not piss off your school

So it has been a few weeks in most places since the little birdies started big school.

From what I have heard, some settled in well, like they have been doing it all their lives and others are taking a little longer to adjust.

Just remember, however long it takes IT. WILL. GET. BETTER.

It might not seem that way now, but I promise you, one day soon, you will realise that it has been a day without tears, a week without fears, a term of growth and your little person has found their way into the world.

So, with that in mind we recently sat down with an actual real-life kindergarten teacher (who we shall call Miss Mac) and discussed a bunch of stuff including ways to help settle your little one in, how to make nice with the other parents and how not to piss off your school.Inside of a classroom with back to school on the chalkboard

1. Make life easier for your teacher

Your teacher will appreciate if you can bring in your own tissues and hand sanitiser.  Some people may not realise, but teachers are often required to provide this from their own personal pocket. Just a box here and there will really be appreciated (and it takes VERY little effort to add another box to the trolley on grocery day!)

2. Size does matter

No big pencil cases! They simply take up too much space on the little birdy’s desk! Miss Mac says last year she had one student bring in three different pencil cases. One for pencils. One for crayons. One for textas! While she admires the anally retentive organisational side of that parent it is simply not practical for a 5 year old to manage!

 3. Home/School balance

One big thing that people often don’t think about is to mention to your teacher is there is any changes in your homelife. These changes can affect your little ones more than you realise and having your teacher aware means that can help your little bambino adjust to any changes while at school.

Also if your little one is struggling to complete homework then make a time to discuss this with your teacher. If you don’t let them know they won’t know there is a problem! There is no point waiting until the end of term and then bitching about it!classroom

 4. Make a decent time to have a chat

If you have a concern/issue or just want to chat, have a talk to your teacher ASAP. Having said that, at 9.06am while the teacher is trying to wrangle 18 energy balls into a class room is not an ideal time to bring up your problems. Miss Mac says teachers are always happy to have a discussion with you, it is just important to schedule a time so both of you can participate fully without interruptions.

 5. Competition is for wankers

There is no point comparing your kid’s abilities to that of Jack’s or Jill’s. Just be patient. Not all children are good at the same things at the same times. What Jack is good at Jill might not be. At the end of the day all children need support and competition is unnecessary. On the flip-side Yes, be proud of your little one but don’t be a douche bag show-off if your minion happens to be better at one area than someone else. Keep it real.

6. Have realistic expectations

Don’t expect your kindergartener will learn algebra and have formed an opinion on the current situation in North Chechnya by the end of term one. Your teacher is more than happy to let you know what curriculum they will use and what expectations you can have for your little birdy throughout the year. In extension of that, if your little one has a deep interest in something such as the human body, mention this to your teacher and they might use that as an inspiration for a lesson.

Image: shutterstock

Image: shutterstock

7. Home help

The more time you put in, the easier you make a teacher’s job. If you read to your child often before school then they are more likely to have already formed a good attention span and have a legitimate interest in reading. Every moment of time you give your child will be rewarded tenfold.

8. Be involved

Schools recognise that some parents work a shitload and probably unable to be involved in everything. If you are unable to run the canteen weekly or participate heavily in the P&F you can still be involved. Fundraising is always necessary and so are an extra couple of hands at fete time. The fete is likely to happen only once a year, so be organised and donate some supplies. Or volunteer at one school disco. Any sort of contribution makes a difference. Plus this is a great way to build a friendship with other parents in the school. You never know when it may come in handy to have a friend near by!

9. Buy some love

At the end of the year, you have survived. Your kid has survived. The teacher has survived. Here is a great list of gifts to say thanks to your kid’s teacher:

  • Personalised stamps
  • Personalised pens
  • Stickers
  • Personalised mugs
  • Movie vouchers
  • Chocolates (but keep in mind they get A tonne of chocolates!)
  • Stationary
  • Stuff to use in classroom.
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Miss Mac says, meaningful gifts don’t have to be expensive, just a card that shows the parent’s appreciation for all you have done is lovely. It is always nice to know you are valued!

Happy school days Nesters x

 

 

{Raising Little People} Is your little-birdie ready for school?

Making the decision to send your little-birdie to school is so tough. How do you know when they are ready? What will be expected of them? Is 5 old enough? Or should we wait until he is 6?

I started school when I was 4, my friend started at 6. We both survived. So what’s the right answer?kid-ready-school-jpg

Ivillage have put together a list of indicators that may help you make that decision. You can find it here -> ‘Is my child ready for school?’

While not an absolute checklist, it does assist the decision making.

Did you send your little-birdie early? Or hold them back?