{Same Sex Plebiscite} Why you should vote yes

So not sure why you should vote yes on the plebiscite? I got the answer for you….

The main reason you should vote yes is, well because…

It doesn’t affect you.

It really won’t change your life at all.

I think that’s the bit that so many people are missing about this whole thing.

You can still go on living your conservative life. If you vote yes, your heterosexual life isn’t going to change. You will still be married. You will still be accountable to your partner. You will still be your partner’s beneficiary. Your marriage will be no less valid.

But here’s the thing, it won’t change your life at all, but it will change someone else’s life. So much more than you will ever know.

You are gifting someone a chance to have a family that is recognised by all. A family that is happening already. Love is love regardless of how you feel.

You don’t need to necessary support gay rights, but you should support human rights.

By ticking the box and posting back your vote you are giving someone out there the chance you feel validated. The chance to feel love. The ability to see their life no longer covered in discrimination but rather in equality.

So don’t waste your chance to change someone else’s life for the better. Shouldn’t everyone have the right to love?

It won’t affect you, but mate I guarantee your vote will affect others.

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{Raising Little People} Bringing confidence back mama…

Effective Ways to Improve Self-Confidence for Mums

When people say that having a baby is a life-changing experience, they are most certainly telling the truth. It’s a miraculous thing that turns your whole world upside down – and for the most part, in a good way.

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However, women are rarely candid when it comes to the downsides of motherhood, mostly for the fear of sounding like a ‘bad mum’. It’s not all peaches; there are amazing moments, but there are also gruelling, exhausting and frustrating ones, and it is time the stigma is broken and we tell it like it is. While I love being a mum, and there isn’t a job in the world I would rather do, I have to admit that, after the pregnancy my self-confidence, especially the part connected with body image, took a bullet. The hormonal changes, the extra pounds, lack of sleep, lack of quality time for yourself and your partner take a huge toll on you. The wake-up call came, and I answered; I realised, that, if I want to be a good mum I need to be a happy one, and that entailed taking back my sense of womanhood and femininity. I decided to become all mum action instead of all mum talk and self-pity.

I truly hope that my journey of self-rediscovery will be at least of some help to all the mums out there dealing with the same issues, and I will be happy knowing I was of help to at least one of these amazing super-women.

It takes a village…

…or at least a great partner and a little help from friends and family. New mums tend to take on a lot all by themselves. This is a huge mistake. Asking for help does not make you a bad or inadequate mum; you are only human after all. Learn to delegate and not micro-manage. Let your spouse or partner take their share of chores and responsibility. When you take care of your baby together, it doesn’t only serve to take the part of the burden off of you, but it’s also a bonding experience for you and your hubby. Don’t shy away from asking your family to pitch in. One of my life-savers was enrolling my baby girl in a great early childhood service Little Learning School; not only did I know my precious little one was in good hands, playing and learning along the way, but it also gave me the extra time to pamper and regain my sense of self, both as a woman and a wife.

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Get your body back on track

I’m going to be completely frank – I was not the least bit happy with my post-pregnancy appearance, and it didn’t matter how much my hubby told me I was beautiful, I just didn’t feel that way, and I think a lot of new mums can relate to this. I decided it was high time to stop wallowing and avoiding mirrors, and reclaim my body. With a pinch of good time-management and aforementioned help, I started by changing my dietary habits.

After some careful research, I found just the right foods that would allow me to eat healthy but that are also good for my baby as I was still breastfeeding. I turned to oats, yogurt, as well as salmon, plenty of greens, blueberries, and the wonderful matcha tea, to help me detox and give my metabolism a boost. In my determination to get my body back to at least close to what it used to be, aside from changing my diet I hit the gym, and I hit it hard. It felt amazing, and once I got my stride back, I couldn’t wait to go back. Not only did working out help with my weight, it also greatly helped me to regain my body-confidence and even my sex-drive. What a lot of people won’t tell you is that once the baby comes, the sex goes out the window, and you need to make a conscious effort to connect with your partner physically. Once I felt sexy, I was able to believe my husband when he told me I was. Of course, some new makeup and a great new hairdo didn’t hurt, and neither did a change of wardrobe. You might not be able to fit into your skinny jeans just yet, but there are so many mum-chic styles out there that will make you feel super sexy and stylish.

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You are more than parents

Once you have a baby you and your partner become parents, and at the beginning, parenting gets in the way of romance, which is completely natural. However, you should never let romance fizzle out of your life. Make the time to have a meaningful conversation with your partner. Leave the baby in good hands of family or professionals, and take your partner on a romantic date. Romance doesn’t just happen; you have to work on keeping the spark alive. Establish ground rules – no talking about nappies, bottles or any baby stuff – this is the time for you two to reconnect. Take it a step further, romance doesn’t have to entail only candlelight dinners. Remember the things the two of you used to love to do together. See a movie, go to a concert, take the day and spend it at the beach, ride bicycles, whatever you loved to do pre-baby, and go back to it. Couples who do things together – stay together.

Take the time to fall in love with your partner all over again, and remind them why they fell in love with you. It will not make only you happier – it will reflect on your child as well, as kids are very aware of their surroundings and can sense whether they are in a home that is filled with love.

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{Love Birds} Updating your something blue..

Everyone knows that weddings should be individual and customised to the specific couple, but there are a few traditions that are usually followed at most weddings.

How then, do you make these traditions just a little bit more special and unique?

The gorgeous team from Wedding Party have created the ultimate cheat’s guide to updating the something blue. You can check it out here -> Wedding Party

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Happy wedding planning Nesters!

{Love birds} Michelle and Justin say together forever

This day I will marry my friend;
the one I laugh with,
live for, dream with, love.
    ~ author unknown

Not so long ago, a long story happened. Shell met Justin and they fell madly into each other. They are best friends, lovers, kindred spirits. Together forever.

This is a beautiful wedding and I love scrolling through their photos seeing their love for each other. We know these two will be the happily ever after.

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Love birds: Michelle Morton, 29 Childcare worker & Justin Slattery, 26 Electrician.

Married: September 12, 2012

Ceremony: ‘Little Cove’ Rex Smeal Park, Port Douglas, Queensland

Reception:  Salsa Bar & Grill Port Douglas

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Theme: Simple but Elegant. Reception was all white with a touch of Salmon to match bridesmaid dresses

The Dress: From Sweethearts Bridal. It was the first dress I tried on, tried on a few others but just couldn’t go past this one. Thought it was just perfect for me and where our wedding was held!!

My nan’s brooch was attached to my bouquet as something old, and as a special touch as she couldn’t make it.

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Groom & wedding party attire: Boys wore 5 piece black suit with white shirts. Groom had off white tie and groomsmen wore black ties. Hired from Jack Holman’s Menswear in Bathurst.

Bridesmaids wore long ‘Watermelon’ dresses which were from Brides of Sydney.

Hair/makeup: Hair done by my sister, Belinda. I had soft curls, all out with a ribbon headband.

Makeup done by my sister-in-law Robyn, Napoleon makeup was used.

Decorations: Reception was mostly white. Table cloths, chair covers and bows were white. Table centre pieces were a small square vase with salmon Gerberas. A small white candle in a clear vase on either side. Tables sprinkled with clear diamantes.

Flame torches were out the front of Salsa. Inside poles were covered in white organza and fairy lights.

We also had a lolly buffet! Lollies from Westco which we took up to Port Douglas.

 Food: The food was absolutely amazing!!

Canapés on arrival.

Guests had a choice of 3 entrees which were:

  • Salsa’s ½ Dozen Oysters Three ways – natural, nam pla prik, wasabi emulsion
  • Slow Braised Lamb Pithiviers, w/ eggplant whip, chermoula vinaigrette
  • Char Siu BBQ Pork tenderloin, w/ soba salad, mandarin hollandaise, scallop salsa

Mains was also a choice of 3:

  • Piri Piri Chicken Breast, w/ kipfler potato salad burned lime crème fraîche
  • Char Griled Sirlion, w/ corn & coriander galette, jalapeno hollandaise
  • Chimichurri Barramundi, w/ parsnip flan, piquillo pepper & chorizo salsa fresco

Cake and fresh strawberries for dessert

Cake: 2 Tier Square chocolate mud on bottom and caramel mud top. Finished on an iced board and arranged on an angle with rose flower arrangements. Cake was served on platters with fresh strawberries.

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Drinks: Red, White and Sparkling Wines. There were a variety of beers and cocktails.

Photographer: Rob, from Port Douglas Weddings.

Cars: Limousine

Rings: Rings were from WJ Coote & Sons. Grooms is Sterling Silver Gents Wedder and Brides is Platinum Princess Baguette Channel Set Wedder

Stationary: Invitations were made by Stacey at Polka Dot Poppy Invitations. We couldn’t have been happier with how they turned out.

We designed table numbers and name cards, they were printed from Brian Burke’s Printing.

Music: I walked down the isle to ‘A Thousand Years’ by Christina Perri.

‘You & Me’ by Lifehouse was our first dance song.

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Special moments: The first glance of each other at the ceremony was a special feeling, a few tears of joy.

The moment we were presented as Mr & Mrs Slattery was such a great feeling.

A number of messages had been compiled from loved ones back at home which were read out at the reception. In particular the messages from the kids in my preschool class were very cute and funny.

We feel the whole day was so special,  a day that we will never forget!!

Guests: We had 60 people share in our day

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Stockists:

Ceremony: ‘Little Cove’ Rex Smeal Park, Port Douglas, Queensland

Reception?:  Salsa Bar and Grill, Port Douglas, Queensland

The Dress: Sweethearts Bridal

Groom & wedding party attire: Jack Holman Menswear

Bridesmaids:  Brides of Sydney

Hair/makeup: Napoleon Perdis

Lolly bar: Westco Distributors

Photographer: Rob, from Port Douglas Wedding Photography

Rings: WJ Coote & Sons

Stationary:  Polka Dot Poppy Invitations & Brian Burke Printing

{Love birds} Love is.. Rachael & Mitchell

‘What is a soulmate? Well, it’s like a best friend, but more. It’s the one person in the world that knows you better than anyone else. It’s someone who makes you a better person, well, actually they don’t make you a better person… you do that yourself– because they inspire you. A soulmate is someone who you carry with you forever. It’s the one person who knew you, and accepted you, and believed in you before anyone else did or when no one else would. And no matter what happens.. you’ll always love them’. – Dawson’s Creek

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It is with the most heartfelt truth that I say I have never seen two people more in love than the beautiful Mr & Mrs Thurn. They are young, beautiful and genuinely the most beautiful of souls intertwined together forever. It was an absolute privilege to be invited to share this beautiful day with this fantastic couple.

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Love birds: Rachael Burgess, Conveyancer & Mitchell Thurn, Fitter/Welder

Ceremony: St Stanislaus College, Bathurst

Reception: Athol Gardens, Blayney

Theme: Elegant and timeless

The Dress: Strapless ivory Maggie Sottero A-line dress with corset back and Swarovksi crystals at the bust and throughout the dress and train

Groom & wedding party: Our bridesmaids wore floor length strapless dresses in navy chiffon and the groomsmen wore black three piece suits and a navy skinny ties. The groom had an ivory vest and tie.

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Hair: Cleanthi from Studio Renaissance

Makeup: Cindy Cook of Coukla’s Orange

Decorations: Each table had a fishbowl vase filled with pale pink and ivory roses sitting on a mirror disc and surrounded by tea-lights. Chandeliers from the ceiling and candelabra on the bridal table. Dry ice gave a cloud effect on the dance floor for the bridal waltz. We also used navy table runners and sashes on the chairs.

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Food:

Canapés- Nutty pistachio biscuits with slow roasted lamb and craisins & Duck in crisp wonton cups & Tomato and goats cheese and poppy seed bruschetta & Seared scallops with mango salsa on Chinese spoons

Entree – Beetroot and goats cheese stacks or rare beef salad with smoky tomato chilli relish

Mains – Duck breast marinated in red wine and orange jus or rack of lamb with tomato onion jam served on a bed of creamy potato mash and roast vegetable salad

Cake: Cakes by Nikki Burden. It was a delicious two double height tiers of caramel mud with white chocolate ganache.

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Drinks: Our guests enjoyed a selection of champagne, beer and wine

Photographer: Heidi Rookyard

Cars: Black Caprice stretch Limousine from Abbey Limousines

Rings: We made each others wedding rings with Larsen Jewellery. Mitchell designed the bride’s engagement ring with the assistance of Regency jewellers in Orange

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Stationary: Dreamday invitations

Music: Victoria Roth played classical tunes on the piano during the ceremony and Muzz Music Orange played at reception

Special moments: Rachael gave the photographer a love note to give to Mitchell just before the ceremony because when we dated in year 7 that’s basically all our relationship consisted of – love letters

Another incredibly special moment was when Mitchell organised dry ice on the dance floor which made it feel and look like we were on a cloud. This was nice because they wanted an outdoor dance floor but the weather didn’t permit. It was a moment no one will forget.

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Guests: 55

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Stockists:

Reception: Athol Gardens – 84 Newbridge Rd, Blayney – 02 6368 2639

DressMaggie Sottero

Hair: Studio Renaissance 223 George Street, Bathurst – 02 6331 5288

Make-upCouklas 166 March Street, Orange – 02 6362 1514

CakeCakes by Nikki

Stationary: Dreamday Invitations

Music: Muzz Music Orange – 0418 167 733

Photographer: Heidi Rookyard

Cars: Abbey Limousines

Rings: Larsen Jewellery.

{Wack your smile on this} A 61 year wedding anniversary with a difference

If this doesn’t put a smile on your face you should go to the doctor. You know, because you are dead.

Style me pretty has published an ‘up’ theme photoshoot for a couple who have been married to each other for 61 years.

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What makes this story just a little bit more beautiful is the fact that their wedding photographer actually stood them up on their wedding day and these are their ‘love photos’ – just 61 years later.

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What an amazing achievement. What great inspiration. I hope to be married at least 61 years as well.

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Head over to Style me Pretty for more images and delight.

Michelle & Shawn – A beautiful marriage

‘Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails’ Corinthians 13:7

Love Birds is one of our very favourite sections and nothing makes us happier than sharing the details of a beautiful day with you. What makes this just a little bit more special is the fact that this also happens to include a few of my very favourite people. Congratulations to local couple Michelle and Shawn on their wonderful wedding day and thank you for sharing the details of your special day with us.

Michelle, Shawn and their children Kaelie & Noah

Michelle, Shawn and their children Kaelie & Noah

The Love Birds: Michelle Eviston and Shawn Ryan

Ceremony: At the Assumption Church, West Bathurst. We chose this church because it has such sentimental value to us, as both of our parents were also married there.

Reception: In the Panorama Room at Panthers Bathurst.

Theme: Black, pink and silver colours and cocktail attire for the guests.

The reception

The reception

The Dress: An ivory strapless dress, with a princess neckline and corseted bodice (Unsure of the designer, but it fitted perfectly like a glove).

Groom & wedding party attire: The groom, groomsmen and page boy wore black suits with black shirts. The groom wore an ivory vest and tie. The groomsmen and page boy wore silver vests and ties.

The bridesmaids had fuchsia pink floor length strapless gowns with silver shoes and a bouquet of blue Singapore orchids and pink oriental lilies.

The flower girl had a baby pink, shoestring strap dress with silver shoes and carried a basket of oriental lilies and blue orchid buds.

Decorations: The church had tall vases in the aisle with clear gel balls and blue LED lights with a lily floating on top.  We also had silver ribbons on the pews.

The reception continued our colour theme. We chose black tablecloths and chair covers with pink table runners and chair sashes supplied by Posh designs. The bridal table was covered with a white tablecloth and each chair had a pink sash. We also displayed the bridesmaids bouquets in vases at the front of the table.Michelle made the table centrepieces herself. They were a beautiful float bowl containing gel balls and LED lights on the bottom with an oriental lily and blue Singapore orchids floating above.

As a personal touch, we created the table numbers from photos of ourselves at that particular age.  For example table six had a photo of the two of us aged six and a copy of the menu on the back.

Food: We chose a delicious three course menu

  • For entrée we had alternate drop of Tomato and Leek Tart or Baked Mushrooms
  • Our mains consisted of Pork loin cutlet served with an apple glaze on a bed of sweet potato or Lamb loin with herb crust finished with a mint jus
  • The dessert was our wedding cake served with cream and strawberries

Cake: We had a beautiful chocolate and white chocolate three tier mud cake. The cake was created by Jaime’s Cakes and was white with pink ribbons and a diamanté heart. We also had a personalised bobble-head cake topper.

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Drinks: We had an open bar for our guests and offered beer, wine, champagne and soft drink.

Photographer: Candid Photos of a Lifetime captured our day perfectly, we can look through our album and relive the whole day and feel every emotion.  Great price, great photographer

Cars: We used three white Toyota Aurions for the bridesmaids and a black H3 hummer for Michelle (her favourite car).

Rings: Shawn’s wedding ring is white and yellow gold with one diamond and was purchased from Angus and Coote. Michelle’s ring was purchased from a jewellery store in Bondi Junction Westfield and is a yellow gold band with diamonds.

Stationary: Luckily enough one of the bridesmaids (the bride’s sister) happens to be a graphic designer and created the invitations. Michelle made the church booklets herself using supplies purchased from Fantasia Bathurst.

Special moments: The whole day was wonderful but the part that we will remember forever is the moment when we were announced as husband and wife. Michelle says ‘It made my heart flutter in such a good way”.

The love birds with their bridal party

The love birds with their bridal party

Guests: We had about 90 people celebrate our day with us.

Cost: Approximately $10,000

 STOCKISTS:

Jaime’s Cakes – Can be found on Facebook at Jaime’s Cakes 

Utter Entertainment – You can find their website at Utter Entertainment  or speak with Gavin Pears on 0419 431 774 

Posh Designs – Lisa Smith is available at 0407 226 321 

Candid Photos of a Lifetime can be found on Facebook at Candid Photos of a Lifetime

Panthers Bathurst – 132 Piper Street  Bathurst (02) 6330 0600 

Fantasia 2/91 Rankin Street  Bathurst (02) 6331 8688