{Same Sex Plebiscite} Why you should vote yes

So not sure why you should vote yes on the plebiscite? I got the answer for you….

The main reason you should vote yes is, well because…

It doesn’t affect you.

It really won’t change your life at all.

I think that’s the bit that so many people are missing about this whole thing.

You can still go on living your conservative life. If you vote yes, your heterosexual life isn’t going to change. You will still be married. You will still be accountable to your partner. You will still be your partner’s beneficiary. Your marriage will be no less valid.

But here’s the thing, it won’t change your life at all, but it will change someone else’s life. So much more than you will ever know.

You are gifting someone a chance to have a family that is recognised by all. A family that is happening already. Love is love regardless of how you feel.

You don’t need to necessary support gay rights, but you should support human rights.

By ticking the box and posting back your vote you are giving someone out there the chance you feel validated. The chance to feel love. The ability to see their life no longer covered in discrimination but rather in equality.

So don’t waste your chance to change someone else’s life for the better. Shouldn’t everyone have the right to love?

It won’t affect you, but mate I guarantee your vote will affect others.

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{Love Birds} Top 10 Most Popular First Dance Songs

The struggle is real.

Real fun.

Planning a wedding is full of thousands of tiny little choices, and one of the those that will sink heavily into your memory is your First Dance Song.

Image: Danni Evans Photography

Image: Danni Evans Photography

Not every single couple has a song, so finding one to capture your love and hopefulness for the future can be tough. So the rocking people at Spotify have released their list of most popular first dance songs. With over 6.7 million wedding playlists available you should really check them out.

The Top 10 Most Popular First Dance Songs on Spotify:

1.     “Thinking Out Loud,” Ed Sheeran
2.     “At Last,” Etta James
3.     “You Are the Best Thing,” Ray LaMontagne
4.     “All of Me,” John Legend
5.     “A Thousand Years,” Christina Perri
6.     “Make You Feel My Love,” Adele
7.     “I Won’t Give Up,” Jason Mraz
8.     “Everything,” Michael Bublé
9.     “Better Together,” Jack Johnson
10.  “Amazed,” Lonestar

Happy wedding planning Nesters x

{This is life} Some stories on “why I cheated on my husband”..

When you stand in your white dress, in front of your family and friends everything seems perfect.

Your future is bright, your lives are planned. You are loved up.

So how come sometimes the til-death-do-us-part doesn’t always come true?

Marie Claire have compiled some stories on Why I Cheated On My Husbandchgeat

They are honest and sad.

Maybe reading one of these will remind you of someone you know or make you aware of something in your relationship that might need addressing sooner rather than later.

 

 

{This is Life} Why I chose to take my husband’s name

No two people are the same. I understand that.

Every single relationship is different.

I recently read this article, Why I Didn’t Take My Husband’s Last Name in Marie Claire and I found it really interesting.

It made me think, how much has the tradition of marriage changed and is it now common place for women to get married and not to take their husband’s name? weddingMy husband and I were married in Port Douglas on 7 July 2009 and it was wonderful. To be honest, short of the occasional shit-stirring expedition I never really considered not changing my name. My husband felt quite strongly about his desires for me to change my name. Having said that, I am sure he still would have married me if I chose not to, but it was his opinion that together in front of our family and friends we would be choosing one name for our own new little family.

I think in extension of that, we both knew we wanted to have children one day and while we wished them to have their own sense of identity we definitely wanted that unity of the same family surname to embrace them.

On the flip side, in my career it would have definitely been easier to keep my maiden name. This is because my father is well-known in the same industry that I work in and has made quite a ‘name’ for himself. Without a doubt the opportunity to grab onto those coat-tails was definitely enticing, but, what would that have shown my future daughters? I need to show them that you can make your own name (even if you have chosen to take someone elses!).

It is such a complex idea, so much of your identity is wrapped up in your name. It was who I had been known as for most of my life but here I was choosing to change my name for the love of another.

I guess it is a personal choice. I know that if one of my daughters does not want to change her name when/if she marries then that is entirely her choice and I will support her either way but for me it was something I wanted to do.

I know that having the same name as my husband does not make our relationship any better or stronger than those who choose to maintain their own name, but for me somehow it makes a difference.

So now, almost six years later I am still me but a little different version of me. I am a wife, a mother, a student, a writer, a procrastinator, an average cook, a reader, a clerk, a friend, a sister, a daughter. Not much of that relies on what my surname is. I am me.

Did you change your name?

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{The Nest Relationships} 20 Secrets of Couples Who Stay Together Forever

Everyone knows that marriage is hard work, not always shiny, not always perfect.

So, what you ask is the way to make a marriage or long-term relationship last?

Here is a compilation of 20 Secrets of Couples who Stay Together Forevercouple

I like this list. A. Lot.

Honestly, a bunch of it is common sense, you know basically don’t be a jerk but sometimes it is nice to be reminded of the little things that really can make the biggest difference.

Here are our two favourites:

Some fights are just fights. They don’t have to be deal breakers. You can be madly in love with a person and still be mad at that person. Fights don’t have to spell The End. Couples that stay together choose the relationship over the conflict.

Sometimes you have to say no to invitations so you can spend time with each other. Just because your calendar is blank one night doesn’t mean you have to agree to plans if someone asks. Life gets weirdly busy as you get older. It’s nice to use that free time to just be together.

What makes your relationship last?

Happy Love Nesters xo

{The Nest Relationships} 7 signs you might be in an unhappy marriage

Marriage can be tough. It’s an ongoing process that needs attention.

So what happens if you are in a bad marriage? Would you know the signs?

Did you know that research shows that people in bad marriages usually have low self-esteem, struggle with anxiety and depression, and have a higher rate of illness than those who don’t.

This article by Hannah Hickok indicates 7 Signs That You Might Be In An Unhappy Marriagecouple

It is certainly worth a read. Have you given up fighting just because it’s not worth it any more? Do you feel like you aren’t being heard? Sometimes the signs are there and you just need to be reminded of them.

Of course, it isn’t too late, but this article might help you realise there is a problem.

Happy health Nesters x

{The Nest Relationships} Are you up for a 10 day marriage challenge?

It is absolutely no surprise to anyone that marriage is hard. It can be tough (and frustrating) but also so rewarding and the most spectacular relationship of your life.

The team at The Vanilla Tulip have put together an interesting idea. The 10 day marriage challenge. Basically you and your spouse complete the challenge for 10 days and on the last day you have a date. Sounds simple enough?!

‘Marriage is hard.

Especially in the society that we live in.

Whether your marriage is at an all time low or at an all time high…

we need to be cultivating and pouring into our spouse.

We need to be strengthening and protecting our marriages.

 Which is where this 10 Day Marriage Challenge comes into play.

We would love if you and your spouse would join us the next 10 days!’ Vanilla Tulip

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 While we are not sure whether this will work, we are interested in anything that assists communication in marriages.

Good luck Nesters – let us know how you go!