So every year some time around my birthday I complete a list of all the things I have learnt in the last 12 months. It’s far from a comprehensive list (one would hope I learn more than 30-something things a year) but I really enjoy reminding myself how far I have come and what I have come to realise about those around me, my life and more importantly myself.
So here we go the 2017 edit:
- You will get a chocolate Labrador puppy who you love madly and will make your every day brighter, but she will eat your shoes.
- You will recover from postnatal depression but you will never be the same. Something has intrinsically changed in you forever.
- You will be paid actual money for writing. Some might even call you a freelance writer.
- Your husband is a solid 10 and continues to make you a better version of yourself.
- She who forgets to add baking powder ends up not rising to the occasion.
- Your little sister will get married and it will go swimmingly – dolphins and all!
- The world will seem quite dark some days but your children will remind you of the sunshine.
- Despite the fact you have two children who sleep really well your third will not.
- No matter how many times you try, you still hate eggplant.
- You will finally convince the hubs that a Kitchenaid and a Thermomix are two very different appliances and you need both.
- You learn that you can’t keep expecting different reactions from the same people. Some people are just sucky.
- Dumplings are always a good option.
- Pelvic floor exercises are no longer an optional way to spend time, they are an essential element to everyday.
- You will go on your first cruise, get weird seasickness but love every moment and realise how important girl weekends away are.
- Hangovers and children are the worst combination.
- You cannot please everyone.
- Your toddler will use sleep withdrawal as a torture method. You. Will. Survive.
- You will basically break your toe while walking up the aisle at your sister’s wedding. I warn you not to look to your other sisters for emotional support, they only offer laughter and sarcasm.
- Even though you thought you had reached premium procrastination levels before, this year you will achieve a whole new skillset. Enter Youtube cute goat videos.
- You join the gym and actually like it. Then you get pregnant and nearly pee all the time so stop going. Just promise yourself that you will join the gym after the new baby.
- The kids will eat basically anything in a wrap. Keep wraps in high supply.
- Pregnancy is tiring. You already knew that, but this time especially.
- You will continue to have friends who are closer than blood ever was.
- Macaroni & cheese is an entire meal for three children under six.
- Letting go isn’t a thing you do once, it is often an action that has to happen over and over again.
- Listen to podcasts. They teach you stuff about things.
- Despite all the nay-sayers you do wear all seven pairs of your sunglasses on a fairly acceptable rotation system.
- As frustrating as studying law is, you are so much closer than this time last year.
- Not everything has to be perfect all of the time.
- You will still hide in the laundry from your children some days.
- Don’t say maybe when you actually want to say no. You’re only hurting yourself.
- The heartbreak from missing loved ones never goes away, but it does eventually change to a dull ache.
- Some people just let you down but you can’t fix them.
- Good coffee matters.
- People in power are not always good but the good people don’t always seek the power.
- For the second year in a row you will not need any moles removed. Just remember though, you are basically one big mole so don’t get too comfortable.
- You are enough.
So, the battery in my car died this week. I don’t know how it happened as I refuse to admit loudly to the hubs that he was correct in assuming that I left the lights on AGAIN.
So I am awaiting the installation of a new car battery in the next few days, it has been a frustrating experience, from making sure each time I park my car the nose is pointing in the right direction in case I need a jump start through to the petrol I am using by leaving my car running for fear of it dying again! The most infuriating problem however has been the fact that the auto security on my radio has kicked in and I need a code to restart it. So, because I told the hubs I knew EXACTLY where the car book was and refuse again to admit my failings in all things car-manual-organisation I have been living in silence. Radio silence.
These are the things I have learnt in a week of radio silence.
I can hear fights before they happen.
This one surprised me. Seriously. All of a sudden because I am not distracted in co-song harmony with my gal pal Taylor Swift I can hear the nigglings of a fight between the natives before it even happens. An example was the one time I heard this “Nope, nope, nope. Tis mines piglet”. This was the undeniable rumbling of fisty-cuffs in the back seat. Due to my lack of audio interference I bounced my voice through the cabin and told the kid to return the piglet to the toddler. Problem solved even before it really began.
On my morning drive to work I have been making lists in my head of all the things and jobs and stuff that I have to get done. Due to the quiet inside the car I have had time to think about paying the phone bill, cancelling the kid’s doctor’s appointment and planning what we will have for dinner. It’s funny how the background radio sound cancels out the ability to think clearly about the mundane.
In the silence I have been compiling a list of things I am grateful for. The silence has given me the ability for mindfulness. Good health, a hard working and loving husband, kids that aren’t arseholes all of the time.
When I stop at the red lights or roundabouts I now have nothing better to do than my pelvic floor exercises. I mean 3.5 kids did exactly nothing good for that situation that I look for opportunities when I can.
I call all those people I haven’t had a chance to speak with lately. For some reason my radio won’t play music but will let me utilise the Bluetooth to call. So hello grandparents, long lost friends and doctor appointments. It’s totes multitasking.
So, while it may not be ideal it certainly has made me aware that sometimes radio silence is exactly what the doctor ordered.
If you have little birdies looking for something to do in Orange then look no further than the Totem skate school!
On Monday 13 April 2015 at 2.30pm there will be giveaways, lessons and all-round fun!
Happy skating Nesters x
We have stumbled across the finest taste of Italy this side of the mountains. Little Italy in Bathurst was created by Pina Verzino last March for fun. She offers cooking lessons that are given in a very friendly and fun way.
Pina, a wife and mother to two growing boys moved to Australia with her family and saw the opportunity to start her very own business offering her Italian to the people.
What’s not to love about traditional Italian food in little ol’ Bathurst New South Wales?
Little Italy in Bathurst offers cooking lessons of one hour, once a week. Each class includes one recipe, instructions and all the ingredients needed. Plus, at the end you get to taste the finished product!
What an excellent reason to grab a girlfriend, book in to learn some new skills, meet a lovely lady and to fill up your tummy.
For more information you can contact Pina on her facebook page -> Little Italy Bathurst NSW