{The Embrace Screening} Kellie’s reflection

Recently The Central Nest and Kellie Gibson arranged a screening of the highly informative film ‘Embrace’ in Bathurst. It was an event that was filled with inspiration, motivation and the joy of spending the night with 150 of our closest friends.

Kellie has prepared a reflection of the event and wanted to share it with you. watercolour

After spending a wonderful evening at the Bathurst Embrace screening last week with 150 other local women and “one token dude” I left feeling really empowered and loved the amazing message that the film sent. You know it’s a powerful and hardhitting message when you are left thinking about it for days afterwards, there were so many parts that really stuck with me.

But… I am going to be completely honest here.

When Wednesday rolled around and the cover for Bathurst City Life was released, I took one look at the cover shot, which was a photo of myself and the other ladies who contributed to the event and my initial thoughts were “what a terrible photo of me… I look horrible”, “I didn’t realise I was that big” “look at the bags under my eyes” “how embarrassing” “everyone else looks great but I look terrible”.

Then a massive part of me felt guilty that I was left feeling like that particularly when the event was all about embracing who we are and how we look and promoting positive body image for all. I felt like a fraud that I had been so passionate about this issue that I had brought the Embrace screening to Bathurst and now I was body shaming myself!

I caught up for a cuppa this morning with a friend who was also on the cover and she told me her thoughts upon seeing it and I was shocked to hear that her reaction was pretty much the same, she was so critical of how she looked but thought that the rest of us all looked gorgeous! After a good laugh it led to a chat about why we are so hard on ourselves, how can we be exposed to such a positive message which makes us walk away feeling so great and then have such a negative reaction to the first photo we see of ourselves? How can we change these powerful thoughts and feelings that have been wired into us for so many years? How can we change the culture?

Upon chatting further I told my friend that I can personally remember being told so often in the past that I was pretty or that I was beautiful, that I had a great body, that I looked really fit etc. Looking back, I honestly feel that being told these things so often has devalued in my own mind other important qualities and attributes that I have to offer as a person and when through my own perception (no one else’s) I feel like I don’t have those things then I feel like I am not enough. Don’t get me wrong, who doesn’t love a compliment? We all do! A genuine compliment can really brighten our day. The issue is that all too often compliments are based on aesthetics as opposed to a variety of beautiful qualities that make us truly unique as individuals, all of those things that our family and friends truly love about us! It can be so hard when what is portrayed as normal in magazines and other media is worlds apart from reality.

At the end of our cuppa we decided that the only way we can change this culture and way of thinking is to have more conversations about it! We need to talk about it as a way to constantly remind ourselves that we are so much more than how we look and that our qualities extend far greater than what meets the eye.

As women we need to work towards building ourselves and each other up and getting to know those qualities that make each of us so unique and so special, each and every one of us has so much to offer! It’s going to be a work in progress to change these thought patterns we have developed over time… but collectively lets all continue to try!

On that note I would like to share one particular quote from the film that I absolutely loved and will always remember “It’s a waste of energy that people spend all of that time worrying about how they look as opposed to what they can contribute” – Turia Pitt. Well said Turia, well said!

HAPPINESS is a habit

{Locally Found} Win the mother of all prizes from Mayfield Garden

So, last week we ran a pretty rad prize giving away a couple of tickets to the AutumnFest at Mayfield Garden and the generous team at Mayfield decided to keep the giveaway spirit going and is offering the mother of all prizes. Mayfield Garden White Party-45

Mayfield Garden is unlike anything else in our area, it offers sprawling grass areas, paths that lead into lushness greenery and flowers that would give Flemington a run for it’s money on raceday. 

It is an idealic space of reflection, of celebration and of nature’s true beauty. MayfieldGarden_Main1

Mayfield employs more than 60 locals that ensure the garden is always peaking and blooming. Over the years the gardens have grown exponentially and now they offer a Nursery for all your cool climate plant needs and a Cafe and Produce Store that serves the MOST delightful seasonal and freshly prepared food directly from the garden and as well as other local suppliers.  

If you want more information head over the Mayfield Garden facebook page or give Meg a call on 6336 3131.

want to win-

The gorgeous team at Mayfield Garden are eager to make your mother’s day just that little bit special and are giving away TWO ANNUAL PASSES to the gardens! Oh my!

To be in the running you have to head over to our facebook page here -> The Central Nest as well as like the Mayfield Garden facebook page and let us know “why your mum is the best”!

Our two lucky winners will be drawn on 14 April 2017.

Good luck beautiful people!

 

{The Legal Nest} Equal time versus Joint Parental Responsibility

We are thrilled to welcome on board as one of our contributors James Horsburgh, Solicitor and Director from McIntosh McPhillamy & Co in Bathurst.

James has over 10 years experience and practices primarily in the areas of Family law, Criminal law and litigation. He is a Law Society Accredited Specialist in Family Law, essentially making him an expert in that field.

James is married and has two children. He is extensively involved in the local community and loves fighting the good fight.
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CHILDREN’S ISSUES IN FAMILY LAW 

EQUAL TIME VERSUS JOINT PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY

Today James clarifies the widely misunderstood difference between children spending equal time with both parents, versus that of the concept of both parents having equal shared parental responsibility.  Image result for childrens issues family law free image

Parental Responsibility

Parental responsibility does not concern the amount of time that the children shall spend with either parent but in fact refers to the parenting role that each respective parent shall play in a child’s life. Under the Family Law Act 1975 parental responsibility refers to ultimately four (4) main areas concerning the child’s upbringing, those being:

  1. The child’s education
  2. The child’s religious and cultural upbringing
  3. The child’s health
  4. Any other long-term issue about the care and welfare and development of the child.

As you can see parental responsibility refers to the parenting of the child as opposed to any time that either parent shall spend with the child after separation.

If the Court makes an order for equal shared parental responsibility then this places an obligation on both parents to consider and discuss with the other parent any decisions which are made regarding the upbringing of the child after separation.

Equal Time

In the alternative, equal time refers to the amount of time that either parent spends with a child. Any order which may be made regarding parental responsibility will not affect the amount of time that either party spends with a child, by the same token if a Court chooses not to make an order for equal time then this does not mean that both parents cannot have equal shared parental responsibility.

These decisions regarding time and parental responsibility are made on a case-by-case basis having regard to what is in the best interests of the children at the time.

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To find out more about children’s issues and the law, please do not hesitate to contact James at Mcintosh McPhillamy & Co on 6331 1533 or email him directly at jhorsburgh@mcmc.com.au

{Girl Crush Tuesday} Local superhero Robyn

We have some pretty hard girl crushes. These are the types of ladies that stamp their style on the world. They are the type of people that will always be remembered and little girls grow up wanting to be. They are women of substance. Women that make the world a better place. Happy Girl Crush Tuesday everybody.line4Today’s girl crush is a local lady named Robyn Rayner who has made a really big difference to her local community of Hill End. So much so that Robyn was actually nominated by another nester because she is that wonderful!

I am told that Robyn is a modern day superhero who saved Hill End from a nuclear dump legacy that would have been passed onto all of our children. She took on the Federal Government and won! Robyn was a fierce and knowledgeable spokesperson who was able to save our local area from eternal nuclear poison.

Not only is Robyn a superhero in the political arena but also manages to run a multi-award winning merino stud with her husband Geoff. On top of that, this beautiful woman also has taken part in making sure farmers out Dunedoo way have enough hay to feed their livestock after the recent fires and has even driven out there to drop it off.

How brilliant is it to see a local woman doing fantastic things for her area and those around her.

So, we salute you Robyn for being a modern day superhero.

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{Locally Found} Mayfield’s AutumnFest

As you all are no doubt aware, I love exploring what we are lucky enough to have on offer in our local area and one of my favourite areas is bringing some tunes to us in the best kind of way.

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On 30 April 2017 Mayfield Gardens will be hosting AutumnFest and it is going to be the perfect way to spend time with your family while listening to some of the best that Australian music has to offer. On stage will be legendary Aussie rocker James Reyne, as well as performances by Boom Crash Opera, Matt Boylan-Smith and dynamic duo, Smith & Jones.

AutumnFest kicks off at 12pm and not only will you and your family be exposed to some beautiful tunes from some brilliant artists but you can select from some sensational local eateries during the afternoon. Mayfield Gardens are thrilled to be offering treats for your tastebuds from Smoking BrothersAl Dente, Moubar Vintage, Tommys and Two Heads Brewery.

In case you don’t want to drive, there will be transfers from Oberon, Bathurst, Orange, Lithgow and Katoomba.

If you want more information head over the Mayfield Garden facebook page or give Meg a call on 6336 3131.

Can’t wait to see you there!

want to win-

The rockin’ team at Mayfield Garden have given us some tickets to give away! To be in the running you have to head over to The Central Nest Facebook Page and comment on the original win post! We are giving away a double pass!

Winner will be drawn on Friday 21 April 2017

Good luck!

 

 

{Raising Little People} Surviving your tween daughter

I know a lot of nesters are walking the tightrope balacing between having children and teenagers and I think this article from Barbie Bieber and Beyond will really help give you some hints and tips on suriving your tween daughter. tween

You can find the link here -> How to Survive Your Tween Daughter

What do you think? Do you have any tips?

Happy reading nesters x

{The Nest Cooks} 12 minute pantry mystery dinner

I hate those days when you have no idea what to cook for dinner and are left scouring the pantry for ingredients that kinda/maybe/probably go together.

Here is our latest creation:

12 minute pantry mystery dinner

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Things you will need:

  • Chicken (about 500 grams)
  • 1 Onion – finely chopped
  • 1 capsicum (red or green) sliced
  • 400g can chopped tomatoes
  • 2 tbs vegie stock paste (from Thermomix) – optional
  • Basil/Oregano/Parsley – doesn’t really matter just something to add some flavour!
  • Pasta of choice (we mixed spaghetti and fettuccine because we didn’t have enough of either one!)
  • Olive oil

METHOD:

  1. Cook the onion in a pan until it becomes translucent
  2. Add garlic and your cubed chicken and cook until golden
  3. Add capsicum and canned tomatoes and stock paste and simmer for about 10 minutes. Season with salt and pepper
  4. Meanwhile cook pasta according to packet instructions
  5. Serve pasta with chicken mix on top.

*You could add olives/sundried tomatoes/bacon or anything you have in the cupboard or fridge. This is essentially our ‘use the leftovers’ dish.

A bit plus of this dish is that the little birdies LOVE IT!

What’s your family’s go-to?

Enjoy!