I stumbled across this wonderfully written article. It manages to articulate a whole lot of things that parents experience, yet are often afraid to say.
You may love it. You may hate it. You really should read it though.
I warn you in advance it does contain rubbish bin words though.
Follow this link -> I am grateful now fuck off.
I really recommend grabbing a cuppa and hiding in the laundry if that’s what you need to do, (not that I am talking from personal experience :/) and have a read.
Here is one of my favourite parts:
“I know the first thing I’m going to be told is “people are just trying to be nice! They’re trying to comfort you”. Yeah, yeah, it’s hard to be charitable when you’ve had two hours sleep. Here’s the deal – trying to be helpful or not – it isn’t. It isn’t helpful. It’s condescending, patronising, and it’s actually (without being melodramatic but maybe a bit melodramatic) it’s dangerous. Constantly telling parents – Be grateful! Be grateful! One day they won’t be shitting on you! And you’ll be like “omg, I long for the days when I was covered in sour milk and diarrhoea!” So – be grateful! You might be so exhausted that you’re crying on the toilet but these are the best days of your life SO BE GRATEFUL – leads to those parents shutting down and never sharing how they truly feel. It leads to parents not having support networks. It leads to parents walking into parenthood without any idea of how hard some moments, some days, can be. It leads to such unfair expectations on parents – enjoy every minute or you’re a fucking monster. It leads to feeling like you’re doing it all wrong. I am so grateful for my kids. I can’t even put into words how grateful I am. So I don’t need you to tell me to be grateful. I am.” – MAMA SAID
Happy reading Nesters x